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Meagan
and Julia had been best friends. Now they wouldn't even speak to each
other. After Ben spent time talking to Meagan, Julia was furious. Hadn't
she made it clear to Meagan that she liked Ben? Every time Julia saw
Meagan walking her direction, Julia would turn away and get busy with
something else—making sure their eyes never met.
One time Meagan happened to see Julia first and realized their paths
might cross. Then she saw Julia notice her and turn away and Meagan knew
she was being slighted by her former best friend. Now she was even more
hurt and started watching for ways that she could slight or avoid Julia.
Before long it was a full-scale war of wits. Was this friendship permanently "on
the rocks"? Was there no way to save the relationship from the
junk heap?
What would you do if you were one of these girls? Or what if you were friends with one or both of them and you were now caught in the middle? How could you avoid being a casualty on the battlefield of their personal "war"? Is there anything you could do to help diffuse the situation and get them to be friends again? Probably everyone reading this article has found himself or herself in some variation of this scenario at one time or another. How can such a sticky situation be resolved?
There is a short answer and a long answer to these questions. The short answer is that not every situation will be resolved in a positive way. Sometimes a person just will not be reconciled to someone he or she views as an enemy. However, many situations like this can be turned around. If we value our friends, it would certainly be worthwhile to make every effort to restore the friendship. In fact, according to God, we have an obligation to see if we can make peace.
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