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didn't want to do it. Even though I knew things weren't working out with
the girl I was dating and that continuing to date her would be misleading
her, I didn't really want to tell her because I thought she would take
it pretty hard. Finally, I knew I had to break it off and told her so
one evening. Man, was I right. It was hard for me to do and she was hurt.
What could I have done differently? How would you do it?
Ending a friendship (or a relationship) is something no one likes to
talk about. It's definitely more enjoyable to think about friendships
that are fun and uplifting than ones that are ending. And unless you
are facing such a decision right now, chances are you haven't really
focused on this aspect of friendships. Yet we all know that occasionally
friendships end. Sometimes it just has to be that way. But stay with
me on this. Sooner or later, you are going to have to end a friendship,
too, and you need to know how to do it properly.
As we all know, sometimes friendships end themselves. We don't have to end them because they have already come to an end through an announcement or confrontation. You know the scenarios. Your friend tells you that he or she is moving out of state. In this case, the matter is out of your control. You are sad, but you know the end didn't come because the friendship failed. You may even try to stay in touch with this person via E-mail or the phone.
Other cases end with bitterness, anger and confusion. Many girls have had another girl come up to them and say, "We're not talking to you anymore because we don't like you." Guys and girls alike have at times discovered that former friends just don't have time for them anymore. And then there is the situation I mentioned earlier when a guy and girl break up because one is no longer interested in the other. These kinds of endings can leave people discouraged and depressed.
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