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Often we guys encounter what feels like a gaping hole: the craving to have companionship that goes beyond calling someone a friend. We know God created this desire in us because He said, "It is not good that man should be alone" (Genesis 2:18).
But we also have to recognize that timing is important. If we try to force a relationship with a girl before getting to know her well, we are asking for unnecessary pain and difficulties. In contrast, waiting for God's timing and putting friendship first allows us to enjoy His blessings to the utmost.
So we need to know how to get to know girls without aiming for a full-blown romantic relationship.
Think about it this way. When all is said and done, you are going to be married to only one person. That means you will ultimately be maintaining one romantic relationship: the one you'll share with your wife. Regardless of how many friendships you develop before that time, you can only carry one through into marriage.
Knowing this, is it logical to put a great deal of time and effort into building romantic relationships that you will have to discard entirely at some point in the future? Instead, first establish strong friendships that can remain constant.
Friendship is wonderful because it allows two people to get to know each other without any exclusive or unreasonable expectations of one another. Here is the opportunity to get to know a girl for who she is.
A healthy, romantic relationship must be built on friendship. It is impossible to have a meaningful relationship with someone you don't know. It is, of course, possible to feel strong physical attraction without deeper understanding, but this feeling will not last.
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