Because so many marriages-particularly in modern Western countries-end in failure, couples trying to live godly lives and make their relationships last will look for ways to protect
and preserve their marriages.
God tells us that He "hates divorce" (Malachi 2:16), and He
gives us specific instructions that can produce peace and happiness. Regardless
of whether one has followed God's instructions when it comes to dating, these
principles will help any marriage.
Although the best course of action is to always follow all of God's instructions,
God also allows and encourages everyone to turn from past sins and to
begin obeying Him (Acts 2:38; 3:19). So even if you have made mistakes
in dating or in your marriage, you can change if you commit your life
to God and ask for His help in reforming your life. (If you'd like to
know more about the purpose of human life and how to commit your life
to God, request our free booklets What
Is Your Destiny? and The
Road to Eternal Life.)
Although solid, secure relationships are built more quickly
when both husband and wife accept and practice God's laws, God expects each
of us to respond to Him regardless of the circumstances of our marriage (James 4:17). Even when only one spouse commits his or her life to God and His standards,
God can bless both partners (1 Corinthians 7:13-14). A positive, loving example
of obedience to God by a husband or wife may influence the other to want to
please God (1 Peter 3:1-4). One person can make a difference.
